Those two words, mommy guilt, together can make your stomach churn! Why do we have it? Why won’t it go away? And what can we do about it? While there is no black and white answer to this frequent torture, it is so important to check your perspective. In every area of life, perspective is key to balance. Your perspective on mommy guilt may just be what is making you live each day with stress, uneasiness, and regret. So, let’s start at the beginning.
First, it’s important to go back to the basics and answer several questions. What are you specifically feeling guilty about? Is it leaving your children while you go to work? Not being able to manage playtime with them vs. housekeeping? Unable to get a healthy family dinner on the table every weeknight? The list goes on and on. You can spend so much time even making this list that you increase your stress to an all time high. So, let’s stop here.
First Comes Gratitude
To begin this series, let’s focus on the simple concept of gratitude. Yes, we are all grateful. Grateful for our children, spouse, jobs, roof over our head…. But do we verbalize and think on it?
The act of being grateful is so powerful for your emotional health as well as physical health. For me, gratitude comes into play every morning. After I pour my cup of coffee, I devote time to journaling. It’s not a time of just “Dear Diary,” but a time of true reflection of anything that is on my mind. This is my place to spill my guts on the good, the bad, and the ugly. However, before I get into “the bad and the ugly” each day, I set my intentions on “the good.” The difference this activity makes is astounding. There is so much power in our thoughts and words that by being intentional and mindful we have the ability to set our day in a positive direction.
Since I am an organized person by nature, I love to have a unique journal specifically for my morning time. I would love for you to get an inspirational journal (TJMaxx always has cute and inexpensive journals) yourself and give this a try. Start by taking only 5 minutes and go from there. You will be amazed at where this thought process leads you to.
My goal in this series to bring to light what we all think, but often don’t say. We don’t say it out of guilt…out of embarrassment…out of shame. But none of that makes sense, especially if we are living this journey together. There is no judgement here. Just the raw, bare truth. I’ll be as transparent as possible and my hope is that you will too. Comment below and let’s put on our Red Dress together. It’s time to put Mommy Guilt in it’s place!
Falyn’s Bomber Jacket: Nordstrom Rack, $30 (similar)
Falyn’s Tutu: Old Navy, $15
Journal: Amazon, $8
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